Lulu Candland, Staff Writer

“I love my parents and they taught me how to be open minded, but that’s about it,” said Sheldon Gustin dryly. “They never really taught me actual life lessons, like how to take care of myself,” he said with a chuckle. Sheldon Gustin is a nineteen year old mechanic, he works at a hydraulics shop with his dad and has always been interested in cars. Gustin graduated from Cottonwood in 2017.

He enjoys the simple pleasures in life: like rain, and music. Sheldon was raised very open minded and was taught to accept people for who they are. He isn’t religious and has his own reasons for not being involved. He’s not the type of person to not like something without a reason.

Gustin exists in a way that is very non-confrontational and simple. At least that’s the way he presents himself to a lot of people. After getting to know Sheldon Gustin better, he opens up quite a bit, but still has a hard time telling people what he wants.

From a young age boys are normally taught to hide away their emotions and to “man-up.” They are taught to grow up, find a wife, get a well paid job, have a couple of kids, and take care of everyone. It makes them grow up with a certain mindset that they aren’t allowed to show their emotions. 

According to Christopher Flett, who wrote a book on the subject called What Men Don’t Tell Women About Business: Opening Up The Heavily Guarded Alpha Male Handbook, Men don’t often exhibit emotion because we are taught that it is weak to do so. Men don’t cry! Or if we do, we’ll rarely admit to it. The truth is we do get emotional; we just don’t show it. Our fathers pull us aside and tell us to be two-faced: a private face you have outside of the public eye, and a public face that shows no weakness.”

According to Medical Daily’s web site, crying does a multitude of things for your body and mind. Crying releases toxins, kills bacteria, improves vision, improves mood, and relieves stress, and, boosts communication.

This concept that emotions are weak is portrayed in movies, books, and media. It has been this way for a very long time and it’s a very hard norm to break. The way Sheldon Gustin was raised taught him to accept everyone for who they are, but his parents never taught him how to take care of himself or express himself. He generally doesn’t know how to express his emotions unless he is talking to someone he is very comfortable around.